How many of us are unhappy about the way our life is, and long for something more? Numerous psychiatrists and sociologists have used and relied upon a number of buzz words and labels to not only define this sense of unhappiness with life but also, to actually pinpoint the causes for it. Emile Durkheim, the so called father of modern sociology developed his theory of functionalism and made reference to the phenomena he dubbed “anomie” to describe the individuals alienation from society as a whole. Robert Merton sought to expand upon the workings of Durkheim and developed his own theory, “Strain theory” whereby the lack of access to legitimate avenues for success alienates members of society.

However, the problem with all of these different theories is that they attempt pigeon hole an entire society  into a clearly and somewhat rigidly defined label with little to no consideration for the subtle nuances and differences that exist between different people. Therefore, the only person who can ever truly improve your life is….you. You ARE the master of your destiny, and the direction which your life will ultimately take. Exercise that right, use that responsibility and take charge of your fate, and achieve all that you want!

In order to resolve a problem it is necessary for us to first actually identify just what exactly it is, and so the following exercise should go some way to assisting you to narrow the range down. Write down all of the various outlets in your life (such as work, family, hobbies) and then note the degree of satisfaction you have with those areas. Be honest, and do not hesitate when jotting them down.

Once you have identified your weaker areas, the next step is to work out just why you feel so blue about them. Are you spending too much time in some parts of your life, to the detriment of others? Does this have the effect of knocking you off balance as a whole? If so, then it is important that you take proactive steps to resolve such unhappiness and disharmony.

Identify the steps that will make you happy, such as getting a promotion to ease money woes. Once you have done that, you need to then identify the smaller milestones you will need to achieve in order to fulfill the larger objective. Make sure that you set a deadline for these goals and mark them in a prominent position so that you do not lose sight of them (both literally and figuratively speaking.) Try and set a deadline that is realistic, but which poses enough of a challenge so as to actually move you out of your comfort zone if even for a little while.

 Happy New Year.  Make It Whatever You Want It To Be !

Tags: design your life, emotionally, financially, new year's resolution., physically, spiritually

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